A friend of mine recently kissed a girl. And she liked it.
"I'm not a lesbian, and I'm not bi," she explained, sipping her Belvedere.
"So why'd you do it?" I asked.
"Well, everyone's doing it and I thought I should at least TRY it," she answered.
It turn out that lipstick lesbianism is the new black. From Katy Perry's hit single to celebrities like Britney and Madonna or Sandra Bullock and Scarlett, everyone seems to have a bit of girl-on-girl action happening. And whether it's to sell singles or celebrate single-dom, (temporary) lesbianism has hit the mainstream in a big way.
I know very few women who haven't had a same-sex kiss. We are bombarded with images of it in both porn and pop-culture, and it has become such an essential rite of passage that it's even got a name--LUGS, which stands for 'Lesbians Until Graduation.'
For some, it's a way to turn guys on, while for others it's about exploring their own sexual power, because there is something exhilarating about doing what is taboo.
For me, it wasn't about sex. It was about having something beautiful. She was stunning and exotic, and I wanted her the same way I wanted the new, limited-edition Louboutins. I knew they weren't practical, comfortable or even long-lasting, but that wasn't the point. They were so gorgeous I had to have them. In short, it was desire...but it wasn't erotic.
However pashing another woman doesn't make a girl bi-sexual or a lesbian. Rather, it's like ice-cream.
"I'm not a lesbian, and I'm not bi," she explained, sipping her Belvedere.
"So why'd you do it?" I asked.
"Well, everyone's doing it and I thought I should at least TRY it," she answered.
It turn out that lipstick lesbianism is the new black. From Katy Perry's hit single to celebrities like Britney and Madonna or Sandra Bullock and Scarlett, everyone seems to have a bit of girl-on-girl action happening. And whether it's to sell singles or celebrate single-dom, (temporary) lesbianism has hit the mainstream in a big way.
I know very few women who haven't had a same-sex kiss. We are bombarded with images of it in both porn and pop-culture, and it has become such an essential rite of passage that it's even got a name--LUGS, which stands for 'Lesbians Until Graduation.'
For some, it's a way to turn guys on, while for others it's about exploring their own sexual power, because there is something exhilarating about doing what is taboo.
For me, it wasn't about sex. It was about having something beautiful. She was stunning and exotic, and I wanted her the same way I wanted the new, limited-edition Louboutins. I knew they weren't practical, comfortable or even long-lasting, but that wasn't the point. They were so gorgeous I had to have them. In short, it was desire...but it wasn't erotic.
However pashing another woman doesn't make a girl bi-sexual or a lesbian. Rather, it's like ice-cream.
Imagine you really, really want some ice-cream. Actually, what you really, really want is chocolate ice-cream. But when you go to the fridge, there isn't any chocolate ice-cream. There's only strawberry ice-cream.
You have a choice: you can either go without ice-cream at all, or you can go for a flavor you didn't really want but hey, ice-cream is ice-cream.
Some of us will go without, while others will be brave enough to try a new flavor they wouldn't normally go for. In my friend's case, there was chocolate ice-cream, but it had had so many spoons it it already that she decided it was safer to try a new flavor.
For those willing to explore the option, let me give you one word of warning: changing flavors is fine as long as you keep in mind that the after-taste will definitely be different.
